STFU Hypocritical Selfish Republicans/Speaking in Slogans


My next protest sign


Can Republicans please explain to me which Obama or Democratic policy(ies) made their lives worse? It really seems that you just don’t want other people to have the rights, resources, opportunities, and access that you do. And the Republican policies being enacted in response actually truly fucking hurt millions of people!

I’m so mad about all of the hypocritical, dictator-style, cruel shit Trump and Republicans are forcing that I can only speak in protest signs right now:

Fear Ignorance Not Immigrants

My Body is a Dictatorship, But the Country Shouldn’t Be

Respect Existence or Expect Resistance

I Stand with Planned Parenthood


If Only My Uterus Could Shoot Bullets Then it Wouldn’t Be Regulated

When You’re Accustomed to Privilege, Equality Feels Like Oppression

Trust Women

Black Lives Matter

Constant Vigilance

Stronger Together


History Has Its Eyes On You

Necessary Trouble

Girls Just Wanna Have Fun-damental Rights


Water is Life

Voter Fraud is a Myth. Voter Suppression is Not.

Religious Freedom is Not Imposing Your Religion on Everyone Else



Act. No Matter What


With the inauguration and Women’s March coming up, I’m finding it difficult to think about much else. So I decided that today’s post is about not being an a-hole as an American and global citizen.

I am so overwhelmed right now, not just with the election results, but with everything that has come out of it- every nomination, decision, act of hate and harassment, and attempt to dismantle facts and hard-fought rights and protections. But that’s the goal. The goal is to overwhelm us, so that it’s impossible to keep up, so that something horrifying sneaks through, is normalized, is met with a shrug and a sigh. We must resist every single time. In the wise words of J.K. Rowling through Mad-Eye Moody, “Constant vigilance.” This phrase has become somewhat of a mantra for me. It’s not paranoia if it’s warranted, and it’s warranted. Here are some other quotes that inspire me to keep fighting and resisting, especially when I’m feeling particularly besieged:

  • “If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor. If an elephant has its foot on the tail of a mouse, and you say that you are neutral, the mouse will not appreciate your neutrality.” ―Desmond Tutu
  • “It is not incumbent upon you to complete the work, but neither are you free to desist from it.” ―Pirkei Avot
  • “Nice is different than good” –Stephen Sondheim
  • “I am no longer accepting the things I cannot change. I am changing the things I cannot accept.” –Angela Davis
  • “Justice is what love looks like in public.” –Cornel West
  • “Silence is the voice of complicity.” –Unknown
  • “Whoever destroys a soul, it’s as if they have destroyed an entire world. And whoever saves a life, it’s as if they have saved an entire world.” –Talmud
  • “Be the change you wish to see in the world.” –Mahatma Gandhi
  • “I am thinking how we can use what we have to invent what we need.” –Adrienne Rich
  • “Act. No matter what.” –Planned Parenthood

This is why I march. It is our duty to ourselves and to each other to stay engaged and to protect those who are even more vulnerable. If you are not actively opposing these erosions to democracy and decency, you are allowing them. I’ll be in DC marching as a Planned Parenthood of NJ ambassador. Where will you be in the fight?

Even I Deal with Internalized Misogyny

I am an unabashed badass feminist. I believe that all oppression is linked, so you have to fight for everyone’s equality in order to secure your own. I am powerful and firm in my beliefs. I say this to you, but also as a reminder to myself. Misogyny is so pervasive and ingrained in us that sometimes we have to fight against our own thoughts.

I was recently at a wedding where I knew very few people. I was dancing with the lovely folks at my table all in a group. Some guy sidled up to the group, and to me specifically. He extended his hand, expecting me to take it and dance with him. I didn’t and kept dancing with the group. Since then, I’ve been repeating on a continual loop in my head that I did nothing wrong and that I didn’t owe that guy anything. This is internalized misogyny: having to defend my own autonomy…to myself.

Why Do You Want Me to Know Your Whole Life: An Ode to my Office Hall Mate (Nothing Ever Gets Done by Being a Whiny Impotent Fuck)

Disclaimer: In case you couldn’t tell by now, I have a hard time deciding on one title, so I go with multiple titles.

I know every last detail of my coworker’s life. I know all about his kids, how they do in school, what after-school activities they participate in, and when they do or don’t show up to school. I also know about his tenants, when the plumber is supposed to arrive, the woes of trying to sell his house, when his wife is out of town, etc., etc., etc. From everything I know about this person, you would think that we’re really close friends. On the contrary, I have had direct conversation with him for an approximate total of 3.5 minutes in the 12 years I’ve worked here. All of this information I gleaned from very loud open door phone calls, which is how he spends most of his day.

Over the years, I have asked him many times to please shut the door when he’s on the phone. I finally got him to shut the door when he’s using the speaker phone at least…and that’s mostly because I physically went to his office and shut the door for him (my literal hall monitoring skills in action–it’s not just a moniker). I just don’t understand why he wants me and the whole hallway to know everything about his life. I know I’m not the only one who has spoken to him about his loud phone habits, so he is well aware that others can hear him. Yet he continues. Is this a weird exhibitionist thing, like an emotional trench coat flasher?

What adds to the infuriation is that he is the whiniest mother fucker I’ve ever heard! (Does this blog have audio, because I do a mean impression of his impotent whiny fucking voice? That technology may be beyond my capabilities.) I use the term “impotent” a lot, not about sexuality at all, but about someone’s inability to act. In all of these overheard conversations about his personal issues, I have never heard him make an actual direct statement; I think he only speaks in whiny, passive-aggressive bullshit.

Here’s my rule: if you’re on the phone, shut the fucking door. Invading my ear space is still invading my space.